Friday, 21 December 2012

Sex- Waiting or Doing?

Soo, I was reading this blog and it was basically asking if you'll wait till your wedding night to have sex with your fiancee/fiance who isn't a virgin.
The comments were interesting to say the least.

I was then thinking, for those who are religious, in both the Quran and the Bible, sex before marriage is a no-no. It has always been that way except those that did their thing on the down low...
Now,  everything is about sex. It's everywhere. It's on tv, internet, magazines, on the train, bus, walking. It's literally IN YOUR FACE.
A lot of people don't believe sex is restricted to marriage anymore. It's an old-fashioned thing that has faded out/fading out and God understands that in the 21st century, He can't hold us down to laws of the Bible days. Others say you have to try it out first before marriage so you both know if you're sexually compatible because sex is a biggie in marriage. If the sex ain't right, then it will mess up the marriage or something along that line.
 Also, people are waiting till they're older i.e. 30s and 40s to get married unlike in previous years when people got married in their late teens/early twenties. How many people are going to wait till they're 30 to have sex?


So I'm left wondering, is God/Allah really not going to judge us on fornicating? Will He judge those in the 20th century for fornicating and not those afterwards?
Does the standard of the Bible/Quran change for different generations? Maybe I missed the memo when it did.

1 Corinthians 7:2 clearly states,
'Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.'

In the Quran, Allah says in the Quran 17:32,
'Do not even go near zina (fornication) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way.'

I grew up in the Church knowing that sex is wonderful and great and for everyone. It was created by God for our pleasure BUT only withing the boundaries of marriage. It's supposed to be between a man and his wife pere. No more no less. Now, it's like everyone does it, kids at 10, 11, 12 have been going at it for years, it's nothing serious or sacred.


I was watching a medical reality show on TV last month. It was about a sexual clinic in North England and some of its patients.
One of the teenagers in the show had slept with about 80 other guys within 3 months. I kid you not. I actually had to rewind and record o.
Like 80 flipping partners in 3 months. 30 days on average in a month. Dude had slept with different people for 80 days. It could have been 3 or 4 a day. Who knows?
The reason why we knew about how many partners he had slept with was because dude had contracted a couple of STDs and what nots. He had to remember or try to remember how many people he had slept with and then give in their contact details so that they would be given the opportunity to come in for tests and medication.
I can't judge anyone, but that's plain NASTY.

One of the sexual health nurses made a comment that sex today for young people is now a form of entertainment that they indulge in.
I think the state of moral decline in the world is very sad and disheartening. I personally believe sex is reserved for marriage. It should be a relationship builder. God said it's a sin in the Bible/Quran. Sin leads to hell. I am not condemning anyone o, but there are no buts or whatifs with God. It's not easy, I'll be honest. It gets really difficult especially if you're dating a FINE BOY and there's so much chemistry zapping around between you too and you just want to say 'sod it' lets get this thing done...

A couple of people I have spoken to that have been honest have said that they know what they're doing is wrong, and it's a sin, but oh well! It is what it is. I would rather someone is honest and says that rather than as my mum says give me dirty excuses to cover up.

Then again, who am I to say that their excuses are dirty? Am I God? I should sort out my anger and unforgiveness before telling people they are going to hell for having sex before marriage.
If they're going to hell, they might as well enjoy the walk to hell. *I CAN'T BELIEVE I SAID THAT o-:*






For all the holier than thous out there, just because you don't commit fornication and or adultery doesn't mean that that white lie you told or that 50 pence you 'borrowed' isn't less than a sin. Sin is sin be it murder or lust or hatred... All sin!

PS: Will telling a lie to protect the feelings of others or stopping a huge catastrophe like murder still be a sin? I wish God will be clear cut in those kinda issues.

This is hilarious

Let me know what you honestly think about sex before marriage...

PS: There's a poll at the top of the page. Be honest! :-)

11 comments:

  1. I don't believe in it. Live by the word and its there, black and white, no gray! Its just sad. I'm not perfect but then its what it is.

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    1. It is what is it! I heard all the no sex before marriage thing thing thing but hey.. we dont know what goes on backstage.. all i wanna say is Do YOU!

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    2. @Lukina: Black and white. No grey. Word!

      @DiDi: What goes on backstage shouldn't be important to you. What's important is what you think and your conviction.

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  2. Friday, 21 December 2012Sex- Waiting or Doing?
    Soo, I was reading this blog and it was basically asking if you'll wait till your wedding night to have sex with your fiancee/fiance who isn't a virgin.
    The comments were interesting to say the least.

    I was then thinking, for those who are religious, in both the Quran and the Bible, sex before marriage is a no-no. It has always been that way except those that did their thing on the down low...
    Now, everything is about sex. It's everywhere. It's on tv, internet, magazines, on the train, bus, walking. It's literally IN YOUR FACE.
    A lot of people don't believe sex is restricted to marriage anymore. It's an old-fashioned thing that has faded out/fading out and God understands that in the 21st century, He can't hold us down to laws of the Bible days. Others say you have to try it out first before marriage so you both know if you're sexually compatible because sex is a biggie in marriage. If the sex ain't right, then it will mess up the marriage or something along that line.
    Also, people are waiting till they're older i.e. 30s and 40s to get married unlike in previous years when people got married in their late teens/early twenties. How many people are going to wait till they're 30 to have sex?

    and speaking of which, i love watching Hollywood films. BUT, everything is about SEX1 a guy meets a girl and in two days, they slep together first and then fall in love! even cartoons now kiss and have sex!

    my point? The Judgement Throne in my opinion is individual! its highly personal! the fact that m Pastor does it or allows it doesnt mean i should. why? because God would sk ME!

    Dearry, we all have our choices. Will is something God has given us freely!





    re- [So I'm left wondering, is God/Allah really not going to judge us on fornicating? Will He judge those in the 20th century for fornicating and not those afterwards?
    Does the standard of the Bible/Quran change for different generations?]

    in my opinion and i don't stand to be corrected! The Standard of God stands sure, certain, valid, undilluted and unchanged! thank God for His enduring mercies though, the rate in whichpre-marrital sex is allowed in this generation is very alarming!

    so should i say because God seems to be silent He won't ACT? unfortunately, the developed world over there do not see anything bad in IT. if you have not done it, you are either a weirdo or archaic!

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    1. Amen. It is all free will and at the end of the day, it'll be between you and God. That's what matters. If your reasoning will matter to God or it will just be story to HIM.

      It's not just in the developed world that virgins are regarded as weird or archaic. It's everywhere.

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  3. To each their own, if you believe, live according to what you believe.

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    1. I guess everyone has their own level of conviction and it will be wrong to make others live according to your conviction. Defeats the whole purpose of God's free will.

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  4. i dont believe God's word will change. it is clear!!..and written for all to see so that on that day, you wont be looking like you didnt know
    God created it for the marriage. the kind of intimacy a married man and woman should enjoy but the devil always has a way of perverting it.
    the bible says flee all forms of sexual immorality.
    this world that we're in is on a downward spiral and so we need the grace of God to hold us and keep us. there's just no two ways about it

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    1. All I can say to this is 'AMEN' God's word is what it is. Nothing we say or do changes it. It's up to us to believe or do with it as we see fit.

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